Katie Dilse »

“This is really, really the best time of my life,” the 22-year-old college student said in the Bismarck airport last week.

And just like that, he turned, and walked away.
To fly across the world.

It was an 8-month dream.
One that changed our hearts, and his.

Saying goodbye to Leo was one of the most difficult things in life.
Leo.
My Brazilian son for life.

He taught me gratitude.
Thanksgiving from the heart.

For the most genuine gift came through him. An unforgettable moment of pure gratitude. No grand gifts. No loud hoopla. Just a quiet moment where his heart could speak to mine.

Leo left his South American family, and countless friends to come to unknown territory last March. His first flight away from his homeland, to an American family he had never met. Co-workers he knew nothing about. An a language that was foreign.

With lots of trust and faith, he became a son to me.
A friend.
A teacher.
An inspiration.

He told his friends all about our family. You know, the 5 Guys.
He talked about our fields of wheat. Our wind.

He invited his own mother across the world to see what the United States of America, the land of the free is all about.

Leo’s mother fell in love with our country.
Our open spaces.
Our sunrises and sunsets.
She was relieved to see that her son was well cared for.

And… when a quiet moment arrived, she pulled me aside.
To say thanks.

“Thank you for taking care of my son,” this Brazilian beauty said.

Leo gratitude

Mom to mom.
Soul to soul.

It was a huge moment.
Because her heart was pure.
Her gratitude was so sincere. So huge.
It filled every inch of my heart.
It flowed through the room like a peace. A tranquility.

With an open heart, I accepted the most beautiful gift of gratitude of my life.

Thanksgiving is really about the people we love.

We need to share our love.
Invest in people.
Strengthen relationships.
And pause for gratitude.
For the greatest gifts of life can only come if our hearts are open, and our lives are ready to be touched.

Because, Thanksgiving is now.
But… gratitude is every day.

Happy Thanksgiving from my heart to yours!
Enjoy your time with your family!
Make time for your dearest friends!
Savor every last bite of your pumpkin pie. (thanks pumpkin farmers of the world!)
And… savor the games you play, and the moments of conversation.

Thanksgiving is really about our friends.
Our family. And the people who become our family.
The pseudo Moms of life.
The “sisters” of the heart.
Brothers of the soul.

Its about the kids being kids.
And adults joining in.
Its gonna be a bit wild.
Chaotic and crazy!

But… that Brazilian boy taught us wild is GOOD!

Really. Really. Good.

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Bringing together four minds usually means four ideas.
And lots of ideas can be a wreck.
Especially when its strong-willed little boys we’re talking about.

As a farm family – we wanted our sons to learn to work together at a young age!

Making mistakes.
Fixing breakdowns.
Together.

So, we gave the boys a pile of supplies and enough tools to do the job.
And under the bright sunshine, they set out to replace the shovels on this piece of equipment.

The shovels are heavy.
Awkard.
Sharp.
Dirty.
Cumbersome.

The sun was glaring and our boys were sweaty.
They sat uncomfortably on the concrete.
Their backs a bit wrenched and that was ok.
Their hands were busy.

The four brothers figured out a process.
And everyone had a job.

They disassembled –
and Reassembled.

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They didn’t want to ask too many questions.
Because they loved getting to work!
They loved their newfound independence.
They felt tough.
Dirty.
Appreciated.
Valued.

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I watched from a distance, and couldn’t believe my eyes.
They looked like men – manhandling that large farm equipment.
It made me sad.
It made me happy.

They were working together great!
No fights.
No flareups.
Just determination.
Raw.
Gritty.

Before I knew it,
the shovels were changed.
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And the boys stood back to admire their work.
They were satisfied.
Myself: in awe.

My husband: well, he was clenching in teeth, and scratching his head…
Because, after six hours of work, he realized the self-sufficient sons had gathered some of their own supplies! (you know where this is heading!)

To the untrained eye – a bolt is a bolt.
But to the experienced farmers – the threads of a bolt are standard or metric.
Unfortunately, they grabbed the wrong bolts.

And… back to work they went!

Twisting themselves out of a mess –
One bolt at a time.

So… about those bolts?
Whose idea was it to grab the wrong ones?
They won’t say.
They were a team.
And they stuck together.

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Here’s the deal.
There’s no book on how to earn that #1 Dad card.
But, it boils down to spending time with your kids.
Here’s one week guide to become a better Dad.

Day 1. Know each of your kids and know them well. It’s you’re life’s book you’re writing – know every character!

Day 2. Make time to play their favorite game. And trust me, they don’t always ask between projects, most of the time its when you’re in the middle of one. But when they ask – it really means they need you. so be there. really there.

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Day 3. Be ready to wrestle. Kids love to get their parents tangled – especially Dads – to show you their newfound strength! Kids score with every parent take-down! Let them. Then, get up and show them what it means to escape or to get yourself out of a sticky situation. Life is full of them.

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Day 4. When they hit a new phase – go with it. You’ll get through it. Sure, it might get ugly. Think of it as morning breath. It doesn’t last forever.

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Day 5. They are watching all the time. Learning. Documenting. And, they’re ready to play back your moves at any given moment!

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Day 6. Play games with your kids – but for heaven’s sake, don’t let them win! Teach them to handle defeat gracefully.

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Day 7. Kids will endure tough lessons. Don’t back down. Be a tough Dad. A tough Mom. A compassionate father. A caring mother. When a situation has you completely baffled and perplexed – go back to parenting 101: Love your kid.

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Prom night – and these kids had a grand night on their mind and in their hearts!
On a night where they’ve never felt more beautiful – or more special –
they wanted to share it with one of their biggest fans.
The fuel station manager.
Donna.
Donna’s heart only has one fight – the fight to live.
And… these kids want to see her live happy.

With a twinkle in the teen’s eyes – they left the school.
This small town worries about kids’ choices on that night and many others.
They were set to show – their hearts are made to love.

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They left with a plan. A private grand march in the living room of Donna.
She’s filled their gas tanks. She filled their hearts.

They all met outside her home on a cold Saturday night in North Dakota.

“Why are all those kids going to the post office on prom night?” – Donna laughed and wondered aloud to her long-time husband, Nick, as they looked out the living room window.

The kids were on a special delivery. Priority mailing.
To bring cheer to the home of their cup filler.

Donna made countless smoothies for them on warm summer afternoons.
She’s sold gas to fill their tanks. They talk. She listens.
She’s wished them well before ball games, and she’s there to hear about their losses.
Donna spent a lifetime refueling – and they wanted to fuel her!

Grandma-Donna

Couples linked their arms, and went into her living room.
Standing before her – they were star struck.
Their Donna.
THEIR beautiful Donna. Fighting cancer – and not losing her smile!
This time they were holding the hose – refueling HER.
Everyone was overwhelmed.
That’s what love does.
It overwhelms us – especially when its love you’ve first given away – and it comes back to you.

The kids smiled with pride. I’ve grown up.
Donna’s played tag in the aisles of that gas station with them. When they were younger.
She’s cleaned their spilled drinks. No harm done, she’d say.
She’s given them free donuts. And invited them to sit and eat.

Donna-and-family

She knows their favorite drink. She knows their favorite sport.
She’s mixed paint for their homes. She knows all of their families by name.
She’s not fuzzy and soft – she’s honest and understanding.

The kids went to refuel their tank –
But when they came out of her home –
Once again, she had refueld them.

Not a one kid was looking at their cell phone.
No one browsing for something they could be missing.
Because everything that fills the goodness of hearts had just happened to them.
That moment was all they needed. all she needed.
And… the love shines on.

Grandma-Donna-and-Melva

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Tonight: it was family open heart surgery.
Intense.
Radical changes.
They needed to be made.

We didn’t enter a sterile environment.
We just sat on the bed.
For a heart-to-heart.
Soul spring cleaning.
My son and I.

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Nothing was scheduled and we certainly didn’t involve a medical team.
We just needed to have a couple minutes…
for a good-old-fashioned cleansing.
To get some things off our chest,
To start fresh.

This MOM job is so intense sometimes!

Raising boys to be men can be PAINFUL!

It burns. Its scars.
It heals.

They zap our pride.
They are our pride.

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As Moms – we become their biggest fans –
And we throw the most flags.

Game rules for my Guys:

1. I love you. – Mom
2. I love your Dad. When in doubt – watch and learn from him. He’s your best guide to the game.
3. After you make bad choices (and we both know you will) – I will be here. I expect you to go back to the game book and learn. It’s not my goal to embarrass you, but I will.
4. Life lessons come up with the sun – I’ll point them out – and soon you’ll be seeing some that I can’t see and that’s when the game really gets interesting!
5. Honesty, fairness, loyalty, and trust. Find them. Live them. Breathe them.
6. You will get tackled. Get up.
7. Work with your teammates. Learn from them.
8. Pace yourself – but don’t get lazy. Dig deep and finish strong.
9. Winning isn’t everything… but have a winning attitude because that IS everything.
10. Shake hands. We’re all in this together.

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A wise mother once said: Life is about letting go.

EVERY DAY.

Watching our sons leave the fan section – to wear a jersey. I’m letting go.

Charging the football field for the first time. This letting go hurts.
And who ever said my son didn’t have hops? He’s blocking punts. I’m filling with pride.

As I hear myself hollering too loud, I watch from the corner of my eye… a beautiful young girl walking by. She’s wearing my son’s jersey. So, I’m forced to let go.

Life is about letting them take a hit.
And knowing our kids will fall. Sometimes hard. Sometimes they can’t get back up.

I’m forced to watch my strong son limp into the emergency room. On his own.
While I walk behind pushing an empty wheelchair. I feel broke. He’s hanging on.

He can barely support his weight.
He wobbles. His knee looks wrong. Something is very wrong.
I study his expression, but he does not show his pain. I only see determination.

We smalltalk. About his team. Their mission. Their vision. Their need… for each other.

We talk about it takes to be a team player. unselfishness. dedication. resilience. a positive spirit. talent.

Then, we talk about his future.
The nurse forces him into the wheelchair. he finally gives in.

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I hear the doctor say something about his ligaments.
No weight bearing. Torn. Surgery.
His season is most likely done.

This time, my son is letting go to an athlete’s dream.
We’re both letting go.

We search to hang onto something! Each other.

We talk all the way home.
We grab lunch, and play cards as we eat.
Ignoring emails. Ignoring the phone.

Instead of putting our clothes into baskets, we’re putting that time into each other.
Just simply being there.
Together. Hanging on.

Watching movies.
Working on projects.

“You know Mom, you really don’t need to sit here all day,” he said.

I grinned. He had no idea how much I loved this!!!

I’m hanging on. To the teenage boy who is so busy, I just follow his dirty clothes.
I’m desperately hanging onto the boy who goes from one athletic season to another.
From the field, to the court, to the diamond. We let him go.

I’m holding tight to the days we read books and played in the dirt.
We’d race inside for science projects and board games. Cookies and Koolaid.
I’m clinging to the days we’d rock all day. Together.

I’m hanging on to the days I could kiss him goodnight, and he didn’t mind.

When your son can only stand on one leg, yet walks his way with his head held high- his mental game is strong. Letting go is a good thing.

It’s much easier to let go of today – when you are filled with great hope in tomorrow!

LET THEM GO to GROW.

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His team sprints from the dugout to take the field.
Looking side to side, he studies the empty dugout.
He can’t ignore the empty feeling in his gut.
He’s warming the bench. for another season
But, his heart burns with desire.
Put me in coach.

He wants to play. THIS season.
Not another one from the dugout.

Finally, the moment of trust arrives.
“Take the pitching mound,” his coach demands.
YES!
He is so ready.
Ready to bring heat.

JD pitching strikes

He prepared for it.
He pictured it.
He talked about it. Envisioned it.
He is ready.

He takes the mound.
Pitch. Strike.
Pitch. Strike.
Pitch. Striiiiiiike.

He’s throwin’ smoke.
Fans holler.
Someone believed in him!
He believes in himself.
He feels great, and he lets it show.

At the top of the last inning, he’s digging deep in his mental game.
Coach pulls on this young man’s burning elbow and slaps his aching bicep.
“JD, I know you can do this.
You can.
Do it.
Go.
Do it.
Just over the plate.”

He was prepared.

JD after pitching win

He was successful.
But, mostly, he was humble.

Seasons change…
But the desire stays.
This time it’s the football field.

He looks great from his sharp-looking uniform.
But, he waits from the sideline.
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Through many series.
Through many games. Through much of a season.
Yet, he perseveres.

Late at night, I hear the weight bench snap. I smell his sweat.
I see a young boy turning into a man.

So when the time finally comes to take the football field.
He is ready. So ready.

Defending the football. nothing can get through.
The nose guard next to him is muscular. Strong. Dependable.
That brute forces a fumble, so the football lays at the 22 yard line.

Like a bear to a honey pot, the kid you normally see on the sidelines charges.
He one-hand grabs that pigskin and runs.

And runs. With every ounce of energy he can muster. Across the entire football field.

He runs with his legs.
But really, his soul has all the strength.
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Running. For a touchdown.
For the ultimate feeling in football.
To make a moment for his team.
To run from the taste of defeat – to relish in the deliciousness of victory.

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He was ready.
He was prepared.
He was successful.
Beaming.

Sometimes it takes time on the bench.
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To be part of a winning team.

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It takes a burning desire
to work through rejections – to win.

It takes falls – to stand tall.
It takes 2nd place – to appreciate first.
It takes walking through open doors – to go somewhere new.

We must believe in ourselves.
Take chances.

Prepare now and embrace opportunities to make the game of life the very best it can be!

You never know when the moment you’ve prepared for… the moment you’ve drawn in your mind… is staring you straight in the eye and its up to you to MAKE it HAPPEN!

Leave the bench – and go get it!

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Hang on tight! This fast-paced world is brimming with opportunity!
We race to get where we’re going… and race to get home!
We pile our speeding tickets in a drawer.

But, when cancer rings – everything stops.
To listen.

At my end of the receiver were four young boys who needed their Mom.
At the other end, a devastated friend.

Embracing her life-changing news, this friend became a hero. Grasping faith. Holding onto hope. Optimistic.
We all smiled. We all cried.

Quickly we rallied.
She had a freezer of food
drivers for chemo –
friends to sit with her –
a supportive work staff –
a family of love.

As a busy Mom, I had to think unconventional.

So begins: “Driving Miss Halie”

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Driving: the hero’s daughter…

She’s sweeter than a pan of brownies…
She’s as wholesome as a truest friend…
She’s honest. Pure.
She needed a distraction. I needed her!
So we drive. Together.

It’s our Wednesday ritual.
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We forget about cancer.
We forget about worry.

(I take that back, we worry about the sunroof. Open or closed!)

We roll the windows down. We roll them up.
We play the music loud. We sing even louder!
We dance behind the wheel. We share a pretend microphone.
And. oh. do. we. laugh!!!!

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We cruise to meetings and to the grocery store.
We cruise to church. and she helps me sing.
We bake. Together.
We swing through the bank drive-thru. just to spread love!
We hang out in the car wash. just to see the purple bubbles.
We drive semi. so she can blow the horn. And I can see her react!

Finding the right words, or the best way to help a friend in need – takes one thing.
Our hearts.
When we live and we give from there – we’re truly gifting.

If you love cooking: then take a warm meal.
If visiting is your thing: then stop in.
If your faith is your guide: then pray together.
If you life is already full to the brim: find something that works for you.

Whatever you do…
Just do something.

Then… do a little bit more.
Stretch your comfort zone.
Live deeper.
Take risks.

It’s not just cancer patients who need our help.
Oklahoma tornado victims. New Moms. Retired nurses. Teachers. Ministers. Shift workers. Health care providers. Nursing home residents. New people in our communities. High School graduates. Preschoolers.

It’s the hearts who are hurting. It’s the hurt in us.
We must reach out… and give. We must accept.

With an outstretched hand, you can hold so much!
You hold the opportunity to love deeper than you ever thought imaginable! And… watch your world brim with joy, with love, with gratefulness, with fullness!

Instead of feeling caught in a whirlwind life, you’ll feel the wind at your back – pushing you to live your very best life.

It’s the kind of wind that puts our sails in motion!

So… Open up – and let the sunshine in!

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